Jake + Jess

in this very usual asian society im born and currently living in, i really do want to say “what’s up with all that criticism?”

everyday i constantly live in absolute irritation with people telling me “when are u going to lose weight?” or “each time i see u, u just seem..bigger”

i dont know if its just hong kong or what. but honestly speaking, i really dont care. because I’ve lost weight and nearly died – and yet at the same time i’ve gained weight and nearly died too. right now i just want to be healthy and feel healthy and beautiful.

I’ve seen all the wedding blogs, and honestly i look at the brides even if they’re stumpy and (slightly) oversized, they look absolutely beautiful. who says size 6 is the norm? who stated that as a law? im a 10, so what? sue me!

i’m absolutely blessed with someone who pokes fun at my rolls but seriously love me from deep within. I dont know what has happened (neither does he), from a really seriously absolutely superficial guy, he turns to someone whos so comfortable with the normaly and pimply face me and doesnt mind me not being pretty and hot nor pretty hot!

yesterday was July 1st, the 13th year after hong kong returned to china. geez each july 1st is always the beginning of the summer where the weather always report to be hot, very hot or blazing hot! and people will clog up causeway bay protesting for what that is (they’re hoping) democracy. wth, havent u realised ure living in china? oh wait i forgot that having “special administrative region” makes u think ure not part of china – but no. china is still very much communist and democracy? protesting? is just a show for foreigners to laugh at. i’ve very much spent my holiday oogling over team edward AND jacob, and a nice long nap. nice~

I was reading a blog on this girl’s husband offering her to chose her presents. -sheepish grin-

LOL Jake does it ALL the time, since we both started dating some 3 years ago. He lets me pick my pressies, with the occasional surprises he has for me I feel really blessed to have this fiance *blush*. (I always end up blurting out bf instead of fiance)

ANYWAYS! I know girls sometimes really find it weird why their other halfs can nv buy the right present. Thats cause they’re built different from us. to them its all about toys and practicality. To us its all about prettyness.

But I’m quite glad that I aint the sort that goes oohlala with LV Prada Gucci Chanel etc etc nor always the Tiffany sorta girl.

I’ve got the biggest pressie i’ve always ever wanted – the rock – and now that we’re spending so much on the wedding, I think I’m good for the rest of the year

I LOVE YOU BABY!

What can I say so much has happened recently. Had a big storm hit up P-Town… Went Hong Kong for a 2 weeks for a holiday and a mission… came back engaged…. and now planning a wedding and a move to Hong Kong…

The storm that swept across quiet ol’ Perth was quite a big one, let me without power for a a whole day and night but lucky there wasn’t much damage to the house. No tales water flooding through the windows and from the ceiling, nor car damage from golf ball sized hail. I did however get caught right in the middle of it driving home through flooded roads and dodging fallen trees and of course idiot drivers that didn’t know how to drive and kept getting in the way of me getting home. They should have just pulled over and stayed off the roads if they were too chicken to drive through a flooded road. Either way I got home in one piece and lived to tell the tale.

Next up 2 weeks of holidays in Hong Kong spent a weekend and then some in China checking out Jess’ village and near by tourist attractions. It was certainly interesting with lots to see and experience. Then came back and spent the rest of my time in HK and proposed to Jess one of the days, followed by an engagement photo session which was quite fun but the photographer was not as engaging as I would have hoped nor was he that open with the ideas that we had.

Now it’s back to Perth and back to work for the next few months whilst planning a wedding and hoping for the best when it comes time to move over to HK. As much as I like the pace of life and in particular the relaxed work environment here I think a change of scenery could be great. Though finding a job in HK will be interesting and working what I call Asian hours is something I dunno if I will look forward to. But I do love Jess so lets see how things go.

Two weeks ago I went on a business trip for a week long over east, doing Melbourne, Sydney, Canberra and Brisbane. It was a very tiring week. First off was two days in Melbourne and I have to say I really do like the place, good food, nice people, great shops, schizo weather. Got to meet up with some friends as well while I was in town Reuben which I haven’t caught up with for about 2 years now and Jolene which by chance had moved to Melbourne the week before and was bunking in at his place. It was great to catch up with them over a late evening coffee. Then it was off to Sydney for more meetings, nothing much has changed in this town people are still too busy and a lot less friendly. Met up with Al in Sydney for a drink and a catch up. Had Nandos for lunch after a meeting in Parramatta which Marty my colleague thought was a few minutes from our hotel and which I told him it was actually like 40 minutes away and they had Extra Extra Hot which was in a black bottle and yes it was quite hot. Landed in Canberra that evening for meetings the next day and got driven around by 2 very interesting taxi drivers and learned about the “New Government Building Project” which everyone one in town knows about as the new spy agency building but they can’t confirm or deny it. It’s suppose to be 2nd largest building in Canberra after Parliament House. Our other taxi driver often drivers high class prostitutes around and apparently their schedules = the timetable for when the politicians are in town for sittings. Imagine that… Finally on the last leg of the trip we got into Brisbane it was hot and humid but I think after Melbourne I like Brisbane the people are very friendly. I was suppose to meet with a friend in Brisbane however due to last minute commitments she had to cancel so I ended up having a weekend to explore around the place. Friday night was spent checking out the city a lil and went to see Avenue Q which was fantastic and very funny.  Saturday was spent exploring the train line, checked out chinatown which was tiny then ended up 1 hour out of town at some place called Scaborough which was on the northern edges of Moreton Bay. That evening had a fantastic meal at Urbane. Sunday was exploring the shops in town and catching a flight back to Perth.

Amongst the 7, Greed lives in every single one of us. The poor wants more, the rich wants even more.

This lies down to the ultimate question, how much is enough?

Often I’d use that question on Jake. But I kinda use it as a statement. Because clearly no one could give any answer as to that. Alot of perspectives are subjective, no price label is stuck on them. Like for example, when I said lets get married some half years ago. He was hesistant, and said we’re not ready, not financially ready. So I said how much is enough?

Some 6 months later, we earn the same, we spend the same. He wants to get married, I said we’re not ready. How much is enough?

Yes, we can break down the costs. For example, the wedding dinner in HK needs HKD300k (based on 30 tables), the one in perth we gave a AUD10k budget, the one in msia we gave another few k (cos none of us really know!). But how far more till we get there? We both know our distances. BUT! We havent account to miscellaneous items like the dresses, his suit, make up, red envelopes with contents, the accomodation, air tickets, etc etc.

How much is really enough?

Over the past couple of weeks, a few of my close friends fell out of their relationships. Some long, some short. Some said they dont love me enough. Some said I dont love them enough. Some said shes not pretty enough for me. Some said I’m not good enough for them.

How much is enough?

I’ve learnt over the past 2 years. We humans like to ACT as if we’re selfless, (or sometimes we really are). There somewhat seems a need to please everyone. Is there really? Are we happy?
Where’s self content?

I left my ex, to be with my current. And my shameless current took me away from my ex. We please no one, but ourselves. And we’re still going strong (thankyouverymuch). But we still have our ups and downs. Which couple never fight? It’s through the fights we communicate, it’s through the fights we understand. And it’s also through the fights we appreciate.

Yes, I do feel somewhat jealous over the couples who says “we spend 2 hours on the phone and talking about everything”. Phone calls that long are luxuries to us. As much as I want to, phone calls are dead expensive. But I always appreciate the texts he sends, the calls he make.

Jake is not much of a romantic person. He has his silly ideas to make him who he is. I’m thankful for this man who loves me as much as I love him.

So baby, do you love me enough?

I love you more than enough!

so its the 3rd mth into the year!! hows everyone doing.
jake’s gone over to the east coast for meetings and shopping in melb, canberra, sydney, and brisbane. lousy him. went ALONE again without me!

as for me. i decided that i need more money. so im back to work now. alot to learn. i know its worth it. moreover. no one to blame, i picked my path. and i didnt have to beg ppl to hire me.

anyways. 3 of my gfs are pregnant (again) and its like preggy fest! im sure in oct/nov i will see cutesy lil ones popping out for me to ohh/ahh over. cant wait! congrats to liann, ophe! and chrystal! hope to hear more good news coming up soon!!!

friend still havent stopped asking me when our day will come. not the preg part but the W. i really dont know la! each time i ask him, we end up arguing. so frustrating!!! ><

jake is coming over in 6 weeks time! i cant wait!
we’re heading back to hometown nx week for grandpa’s school opening! cant wait!
annual vacation trip w jake coming up! cant wait!
tonight is new term at school. dreading!

this is kinda all over the place. but just a tiny update. i give up on making jake blog after me each time or before my nx time. because he’ll never get down to it. and this blog will be dead in no time!

till nx time! MUCH LOVE!

a week ago my parents and i boarded the flight to perth.
so this time i didnt bunk in w jake (for every obvious reasons), we rented an apartment and jake bunked in with us! (for every obvious reasons too)
mwakakaka

so we touched down friday at 7am. and we couldnt check in till 2pm. we headed to the apartment anyways to unload our luggage and headed out to Greenhouse for the expensive (AU$80) brekkie, walked around city and headed to Subiaco for fresh produce since the parents didnt wana eat out at all due to the very expensive brekkie tt served them an indication LOL. Headed back and checked in to the apartment for a long nap. and we headed out to habour town and buy groceries for dinner. Fillet steak, porkchop, potatoes, soup. yumm

Day 2, we woke up making brekkie for the parents and drove out to swan valley!!! we hopped around wineries, alpaca (!!!) farm, chocolate factory, antique shops, dropped by Spotlight and headed back to kingst cafe for a cake (tart actually). freshened up at the apartment and headed out to jake’s dad’s bday dinner. (i know, first parents meeting session) and after dinner, we went to south perth to see the night view of perth city.

last day, we drove out to the lake to check out the black swans. and then on to cottesloe, and freo for seafood feast. the weather was so hot i think i got a heatstroke, so we headed back to the apartment to nap and woke up still no sign of sandy, so we went for a swim :):) came back cooked dinner and then stroll at king’s park! (Y)(Y)(Y)

tt pretty much sums up our 3 days “holiday” )

i cant wait! can you can you can youuuuuuuuuuu